THE
DEAD ARE WITH US
In
our study of Spiritual Science there is a great deal that we
cannot, perhaps, directly apply in everyday life, and we may at
times feel that it is all rather remote. But the remoteness is
only apparent. What we receive into the sphere of our knowledge
concerning the secrets of the spiritual world is at every hour,
at every moment, of vital and profound significance for our
souls; what seems to be remote from us personally is often what
the soul inwardly needs. In order to know the physical world we
must make ourselves acquainted with it. But to know the spiritual
world it is essential that we ourselves shall think through and
master the thoughts and conceptions imparted by that world. These
thoughts then often work quite unconsciously within the soul.
Many things may seem to be remote, whereas in reality they are
very near indeed to the higher realms of the soul's life.
And
so again today we will think of the life that takes its course
between death and a new birth — the life that seems so
far removed from the human being in the physical world. I will
begin by simply narrating what is found by spiritual
investigation. These things can be understood if sufficient
thought is applied to them; through their own power they make
themselves comprehensible to the soul. Anyone who does not
understand them should realize that he has not thought about
them deeply enough. They must be investigated by means
of Spiritual Science, but they can be understood through
constant study. They will then be confirmed by the facts with
which life itself confronts us, provided life is rightly observed.
You
will have realized from many of the lecture-courses that study
of the life between death and rebirth is fraught with
difficulty, because its conditions are so entirely different
from those of the life that can be pictured by the organs of
the physical body here in the physical world. We have to become
acquainted with utterly different conceptions.
When we enter into relationship with the things in our physical
environment we know that only a small proportion of the beings
around us in the physical world react to our deeds, to the
manifestations of our will, in such a way that pleasure
or pain is caused by these deeds of ours. Reaction of
this kind takes place in the case of the animal kingdom and the
human kingdom; but we are justified in the conviction that the
mineral world (including what is contained in air and water),
and also, in essentials, the world of plants, are insensitive
to what we call pleasure or pain as the result of deeds
performed by us. (Spiritually considered, of course, the matter
is a little different, but that need not concern us at this
point.) In the environment of the Dead all this is changed.
Conditions in the environment of the so-called Dead are such
that everything — including what is done by the Dead
themselves — causes either pleasure or pain. The Dead can
do no single thing, they cannot — if I may speak
pictorially — move a single limb without pleasure or pain
being caused by what is done. We must try to think our way into
these conditions of existence. We must assimilate the thought
that life between death and a new birth is so constituted that
everything we do awakens an echo in the environment. Through
the whole period between death and a new birth we can do
nothing, we cannot even move, metaphorically speaking,
without causing pleasure or pain in our environment. The
mineral kingdom as we have it around us on the physical plane
does not exist for the Dead, neither does the world of plants.
As you can gather from the book
Theosophy,
these kingdoms are present in an entirely different form. They are
not present in the spiritual world in the form in which we know
them here, namely, as realms devoid of feeling.
The
first kingdom of those familiar to us on the physical plane
which has significance for the Dead because it is comparable
with what the Dead has in his environment, is the animal
kingdom. I do not, of course, mean individual animals as we
know them on the physical plane, but the whole environment is
such that its effects and influences are as if animals were
there. The reaction of the environment is such that pleasure or
pain proceeds from what is done. On the physical plane we stand
upon mineral soil; the Dead stands upon a ‘soil,’ lives in an
environment which may be compared with the animal nature in
this sense. The Dead, therefore, starts his life two kingdoms
higher. On the earth we know the animal kingdom only from
outside. The most external activity of the life between death
and a new birth consists in acquiring a more and more
intimate and exact knowledge of the animal world. For in this
life between death and a new birth we must prepare all those
forces which, working in from the Cosmos, organize our own
body. In the physical world we know nothing of these forces.
Between death and a new birth we know that our body, down to
its smallest particles, is formed out of the Cosmos. For we
ourselves prepare this physical body, bringing together in it
the whole of animal nature; we ourselves build it.
To
make the picture more exact, we must acquaint ourselves with an
idea that is rather remote from present-day mentality. Modern
man knows quite well that when a magnetic needle lies with one
end pointing towards the North and the other towards the South,
this is not caused by the needle itself, but that the earth as
a whole is a cosmic magnet of which one end points towards the
North and the other towards the South. It would be considered
sheer nonsense to say that the direction is determined by
forces contained in the magnetic needle itself. In the case of
a seed or germinating entity which develops in an animal or in
a human being, all the sciences and schools of thought deny the
factor of cosmic influence. What would be described as nonsense
in the case of the magnetic needle is accepted without further
thought in the case of an egg forming inside the hen. But when
the egg is forming inside the hen, the whole Cosmos is, in
fact, participating; what happens on earth merely provides the
stimulus for the operation of cosmic forces. Everything that
takes shape in the egg is an imprint of cosmic forces and the
hen herself is only a place, an abode, in which the Cosmos, the
whole World-System, is working in this way. And it is the same
in the case of the human being. This is a thought with which we
must become familiar.
Between death and a new birth, in communion with Beings of the
higher Hierarchies, a man is working at this whole system of
forces permeating the Cosmos. For between death and a new birth
he is not inactive; he is perpetually at work — in the
Spiritual. The animal kingdom is the first realm with which he
makes acquaintance, and in the following way: — If he
commits some error he immediately becomes aware of pain, of
suffering, in the environment; if he does something right, he
becomes aware of pleasure, of joy, in the environment. He
works on and on, calling forth pleasure or pain, until finally
the soul-nature is such that it can descend and unite with what
will live on earth as a physical body. The being of soul could
never descend if it had not itself worked at the physical form.
It
is the animal kingdom, then, with which acquaintance is made in
the first place. The next is the human kingdom. Mineral nature
and the plant kingdom are absent. The Dead's acquaintance
with the human kingdom is limited — to use a familiar
phrase. Between death and a new birth — and this begins
immediately or soon after death — the Dead has contact
and can make links only with those human souls, whether still
living on earth or in yonder world, with whom he has already
been karmically connected on earth in the last or in an earlier
incarnation. Other souls pass him by; they do not come within
his ken. He becomes aware of the animal realm as a totality;
only those human souls come within his ken with whom he has had
some karmic connection here on earth and with these he becomes
more and more closely acquainted. You must not imagine that
their number is small, for individual human beings have already
passed through many lives on the earth. In every life numbers
of karmic connections have been formed and of these is spun the
web which then, in the spiritual world, extends over all the
souls whom the Dead has known in life; only those with whom no
acquaintance has been made remain outside the circle.
This indicates a truth which must be emphasized, namely, the
supreme importance of earthly life for the individual human
being. If there had been no earthly life we should be unable to
form links with human souls in the spiritual world. The links
are formed karmically on the earth and then continue between
death and a new birth. Those who are able to see into the
spiritual world perceive how the Dead gradually makes more and
more links — all of which are the outcome of karmic
connections formed on earth.
Just as concerning the first kingdom with which the Dead comes
into contact — the animal kingdom — we can say that
everything the Dead does, even when he simply moves, causes
either pleasure or pain in his environment, so we can say about
everything experienced in the human realm in yonder world that
it is much more intimately connected with the life of soul.
When the Dead becomes acquainted with a soul, he gets to know
this soul as if he himself were within it. After death,
knowledge of another soul is intimate as knowledge here on
earth of our own finger, head or ear — we feel ourselves
within the other soul. The connection is much more intimate
than it can ever be on earth.
There are two basic experiences in the community among
human souls between death and a new birth; we are either within
the other souls, or outside them. Even in the case of souls
with whom we are already acquainted, we are sometimes within
and sometimes outside them. Meeting with them consists in
feeling at one with them, being within them; to be outside them
means that we do not notice them, do not become aware of them.
If we look at some object here on earth, we perceive it; if we
look away from it, we no longer perceive it. In yonder world we
are actually within human souls when we are able to turn our
attention to them; and we are outside them when we are not in a
position to do so.
What I have now said is an indication of the fundamental form
of the soul's communion with other souls during the period
between death and a new birth. Similarly, the human being is
also within or outside the Beings of the Hierarchies, the
Angeloi, Archangeloi, and so on. The higher the kingdoms, the
more intensely does man feel bound to them after death; he feels
as though they were bearing him, sustaining him with great power.
The Archangeloi are a mightier support than the Angeloi, the
Archai again mightier than the Archangeloi, and so on.
People today still find difficulties in acquiring knowledge of
the spiritual world. The difficulties would soon solve
themselves if a little more trouble were taken to become
acquainted with its secrets. There are two ways of approach.
One way leads to complete certainty of the Eternal in one's own
being. This knowledge, that in human nature there is an eternal
core of being which passes through birth and death — this
knowledge, remote as it is to the modern mind, is comparatively
easy to attain; and it will certainly be attained by those who
have enough perseverance, along the path described in the book
Knowledge of the Higher Worlds,
and in other writings.
It is attained by treading the path there described. That is
one form of knowledge of the spiritual world. The other is what
may be called direct intercourse with beings of the spiritual
world, and we will now speak of the intercourse that is possible
between those still living on earth and the so-called Dead.
Such intercourse is most certainly possible but it presents
greater difficulties than the first form of knowledge, which is
easy to attain. Actual intercourse with an individual who
has died is possible, but difficult, because it demands
scrupulous vigilance on the part of the one who seeks to
establish it. Control and discipline are necessary for this
kind of intercourse with the spiritual world, because it is
connected with a very significant law. Impulses recognized as
lower impulses in men on earth are, from the spiritual side,
higher life; and it may therefore easily happen that when the
human being has not achieved true control of himself, he
experiences the rising of lower impulses as the result of
direct intercourse with the Dead. When we make contact with the
spiritual world in the general sense, when we acquire knowledge
about our own immortality as beings of soul and spirit, there
can be no question of the ingress of anything impure. But when
it is a matter of contact with individuals who have died, the
relation of the individual Dead — strange as it seems
— is always a relation with the blood and nervous system.
The Dead enters into those impulses which live themselves
out in the system of blood and nerves, and in this way lower
impulses may be aroused. Naturally, there is only danger for
those who have not purified their natures through discipline
and control. This must be said, for it is the reason why in the
Old Testament it is forbidden to have intercourse with the
Dead. Such intercourse is not sinful when it happens in the
right way. The methods of modern spiritualism must, of course,
be avoided. When the intercourse is of a spiritual nature it is
not sinful, but when it is not accompanied by pure
thoughts it can easily lead to the stimulation of lower
passions. It is not the Dead who arouse these passions but the
element in which the Dead live. For consider this: what we feel
here as ‘animal’ in quality and nature is the basic element in
which the Dead live. The kingdom in which the Dead live can
easily be changed when it enters into us; what is higher life
in yonder world can become lower impulses when it is within us
on earth. It is very important to remember this, and it must be
emphasized when we are speaking of intercourse between the
Living and the so-called Dead, for it is an occult fact. We
shall find that precisely when we are speaking about this
intercourse, the spiritual world can be described as it really
is, for such experiences reveal that the spiritual world is
completely different from the physical world.
To
begin with, I will tell you something that may seem to have no
meaning for man as long as he has not developed faculties of
clairvoyance; but when we think it over we shall realize that
it concerns us closely. Those who are able to commune
with the Dead as the result of developed clairvoyance,
realize why it is so difficult for human beings to know
anything about the Dead through direct perception. Strange as
it may seem, the whole form of intercourse to which we are
accustomed in the physical world has to be reversed when
intercourse is established between the earth and the Dead. In
the physical world, when we speak to a human being from
physical body to physical body, we know that the words come
from ourselves; when the other person speaks to us, we know
that the words come from him. The whole relationship is
reversed when we are speaking with one who has died. The
expression ‘when we are speaking’ can truthfully be used, but
the relationship is reversed. When we put a question to the
Dead, or say something to him, what we say comes from
him, comes to us from him. He inspires into our soul
what we ask him, what we say to him. And when he answers us or
says something to us, this comes out of our own soul. It is a
process with which a human being in the physical world is quite
unfamiliar. He feels that what he says comes out of his own
being. In order to establish intercourse with those who have
died, we must adapt ourselves to hear from them what we ourselves
say, and to receive from our own soul what they answer.
Thus abstractly described, the nature of the process is easy to
grasp; but to become accustomed to the total reversal of the
familiar form of intercourse is exceedingly difficult. The Dead
are always there, always among us and around us, and the fact
that they are not perceived is largely due to lack of
understanding of this reversed form of intercourse. On the
physical plane we think that when anything comes out of our
soul, it comes from us. And we are far from being able
to pay intimate enough attention to whether it is not, after
all, being inspired into us from the spiritual environment. We
prefer to connect it with experiences familiar on the physical
plane, where, if something comes to us from the environment, we
ascribe it at once to the other person. This is the greatest
error when it is a matter of intercourse with the Dead.
I
have here been telling you of one of the fundamental principles
of intercourse between the so-called Living and the so-called
Dead. If this example helps you to realise one thing only,
namely, that conditions are entirely reversed in the spiritual
world, then you will have grasped a very significant concept
and one that is constantly needed by those who aspire to become
conscious of the spiritual world. The concept is extremely
difficult to apply in an actual, individual case. For instance,
in order to understand even the physical world, permeated as it
is with the spiritual, it is essential to grasp this idea of
complete reversal. And because modern science fails to grasp it
and it is altogether unknown to the general
consciousness, for this reason there is today no
spiritual understanding of the physical world. One experiences
this even with people who try very hard indeed to comprehend
the world and one is often obliged simply to accept the
situation and leave it as it is. Some years ago I was speaking
to a large number of friends at a meeting in Berlin about the
physical organism of man, with special reference to certain
ideas of Goethe. I tried to explain how the head, in respect of
its physical structure, can only be rightly understood when it
is conceived as a complete transformation of the other part of
the organism. No one was able to understand at all that a bone
in the arm would have to be turned inside out like a glove, in
order that a head-bone might be produced from it. It is a
difficult concept, but one cannot really understand
anatomy without such pictures. I mention this in parenthesis
only. What I have said today about intercourse with the Dead is
easier to understand.
The
happenings I have described to you are going on all the time.
All of you sitting here now are in constant intercourse with
the Dead, only the ordinary consciousness knows nothing of it
because it lies in the subconsciousness. Clairvoyant
consciousness does not evoke anything new into being; it
merely brings up into consciousness what is present all the
time in the spiritual world. All of you are in constant
intercourse with the Dead.
And
now we will consider how this intercourse takes place in
individual cases. When someone has died and we are left behind,
we may ask: How do I approach the one who has died, so that he
is aware of me? How does he come near me again so that I can
live in him? — These questions may well be asked but they
cannot be answered if we have recourse only to concepts
familiar on the physical plane. On the physical plane, ordinary
consciousness functions only from the time of waking until the
time of falling asleep; but the other part of consciousness
which remains dim in ordinary life between falling asleep and
waking is just as important. The human being is not, properly
speaking, unconscious when he is asleep; his consciousness is
merely so dim that he experiences nothing. But the whole man
— in waking and sleeping life — must be held in
mind when we are studying the connections of the human being
with the spiritual world. Think of your own biography. You
reflect upon the course of your life always with interruptions;
you describe only what has happened in your waking hours. Life
is broken: waking-sleeping; waking-sleeping. But you are also
present while you sleep: and in studying the whole human being,
both waking life and sleeping life must be taken into consideration.
A
third thing must also be held in mind in connection with man's
intercourse with the spiritual world. For besides waking
life and sleeping life there is a third state, even more
important for intercourse with the spiritual world than waking
and sleeping life as such. I mean the state connected
with the act of waking and the act of going to sleep, which
last only for brief seconds, for we immediately pass on into
other conditions. If we develop a delicate sensitivity for
these moments of waking and going to sleep we shall find that
they shed great light on the spiritual world. In remote country
places — although such customs are gradually disappearing
— when we who are older were still young, people were
wont to say: When you wake from sleep it is not good
immediately to go to the window through which light is
streaming; you should stay a little while in the dark. Country
folk used to have some knowledge about intercourse with the
spiritual world and at this moment of waking they preferred not
to come at once into the bright daylight but to remain inwardly
collected, in order to preserve something of what sweeps with
such power through the human soul at the moment of waking. The
sudden brightness of daylight is disturbing. In the cities, of
course, this is hardly to be avoided; there we are disturbed
not only by the daylight but also even before waking by the
noise from the streets, the clanging of tramcar bells and so
forth. The whole of civilized life seems to conspire to hinder
man's intercourse with the spiritual world. This is not said in
order to decry material civilization, but the facts must be
remembered. Again at the moment of going to sleep the spiritual
world approaches us with power, but we immediately fall asleep,
losing consciousness of what has passed through the soul.
Exceptions do, of course, occur.
These moments of waking and of going to sleep are of the utmost
significance for intercourse with the so-called Dead —
and with other spiritual Beings of the higher worlds. But in
order to understand what I have to say about this you
must familiarize yourselves with an idea which it is not easy
to apply on the physical plane and which is therefore
practically unknown. It is this:
In
the spiritual sense, what is ‘past’ has not really vanished but
is still there. In physical life men have this conception in
regard to Space only. If you stand in front of a tree, then go
away and look back at it later on, the tree has not
disappeared; it is still there. In the spiritual world
the same is true in regard to Time. If you experience
something at one moment, it has passed away the next as far as
physical consciousness is concerned; spiritually conceived, it
has not passed away. You can look back at it just as you looked
back at the tree. Richard Wagner showed that he had knowledge
of this by the remarkable words: ‘Time here becomes Space.’ It
is an occult fact that in the spiritual world there are
distances which do not come to expression on the physical
plane. That an event is past simply means that it is farther
away from us. I beg you to remember this. For man on
earth in the physical body, the moment of going to sleep is
‘past’ when the moment of waking arrives. In the spiritual
world, however, the moment of falling asleep has not gone; we
are only, at the moment of waking, a little farther distant
from it. We encounter our Dead at the moment of going to sleep
and again at the moment of waking. (As I said, this is
perpetually happening, only it usually remains in the
subconsciousness.) As far as physical consciousness is
concerned, these are two quite different moments in time; for
spiritual consciousness the one is only a little farther
distant than the other. I want you to remember this in
connection with what I am now going to say: otherwise you may
find it difficult to understand.
As
I told you, the moments of waking and going to sleep are
particularly important for intercourse with those who have
died. Through the whole of our life there are no such moments
when we do not come into relation with the Dead.
The
moment of going to sleep is especially favourable for us to
turn to the Dead. Suppose we want to ask the Dead something. We
can carry it in our soul, holding it until the moment of going
to sleep, for that is the time to bring our questions to the
Dead. Other opportunities exist, but this moment is the most
favourable. When, for instance, we read to the Dead we
certainly draw near to them, but for direct intercourse it is
best of all if we put our questions to them at the moment of
going to sleep.
On
the other hand, the moment of waking is the most favourable for
what the Dead have to communicate to us. And again there
is no one — did people but know it — who at the
moment of waking does not bring with him countless tidings from
the Dead. In the unconscious region of the soul we are speaking
continually with the Dead. At the moment of going to sleep we
put our questions to them, we say to them what, in the depths
of the soul, we have to say. At the moment of waking the Dead
speak with us, give us the answers. But we must realize that
these are only two different points and that in the higher
sense, these things that happen after each other are really
simultaneous, just as on the physical plane two places
are there simultaneously.
Some factors in life are favourable for intercourse with
the Dead, others are less so. And we may ask: What can really
help us to establish intercourse with the Dead? The manner of
our converse cannot be the same as it is with those who are
alive, for the Dead neither hears nor takes in this kind of
speech. There is no question of being able to chatter with one
who has died as we chatter with one another at tea or in cafés.
What makes it possible to put questions to the Dead or to
communicate something to him is that we unite the life of
feeling with our thoughts and ideas. Suppose a person
has passed through the gate of death and you want your
subconsciousness to communicate something to him in the
evening. It need not to be communicated consciously; you can
prepare it at some time during the day. Then, if you go to bed
at ten o'clock at night having prepared it, say, at noon,
it passes over to the Dead when you go to sleep. The question
must, however, be put in a particular way; it must not
merely be a thought or an idea, it must be imbued with feeling
and with will. Your relationship with the Dead must be one of
the heart, of inner interest. You must remind yourself of your
love for the person when he was alive and address yourself to
him with real warmth of heart, not abstractly. This feeling can
take such firm root in the soul that in the evening, at the
moment of going to sleep, it becomes a question to the Dead
without your knowing it. Or you may try to realize vividly what
was the nature of your particular interest in the one who has
died. Think about your experiences with him; visualize actual
moments when you were together with him, and then ask yourself:
What was it about him that particularly interested me, that
attracted me to him? When was it that I was so deeply
impressed, liked what he said, found it helpful and valuable?
If you remind yourself of moments when you were strongly
connected with the Dead and were deeply interested in him, and
then turn this into a desire to speak to him, to say something
to him — if you develop the feeling with purity of heart
and let the question arise out of the interest you took in him,
then the question of the communication remains in your soul,
and when you go to sleep it passes over to him. Ordinary
consciousness as a rule will know little of the happening,
because sleep ensues immediately. But what has thus
passed over often remains present in dreams.
In
the case of most dreams — although in respect of actual
content they are misleading — in the case of most dreams
we have of the Dead, all that happens is that we interpret them
incorrectly. We interpret them as messages from the Dead,
whereas they are nothing but the echoing of the questions or
communications we have ourselves directed to the Dead. We
should not think that the Dead is saying something to us in our
dream, but we should see in the dream something that goes out
from our own soul to the Dead. The dream is the echo of this.
If we were sufficiently developed to be conscious of our
question or communication to the Dead at the moment of going to
sleep, it would seem to us as though the Dead himself were
speaking — hence the echo in the dream seems as if it
were a message from him. In reality it comes from ourselves.
This becomes intelligible only when we understand the nature of
clairvoyant connection with the Dead. What the Dead seems to
say to us is really what we are saying to him.
The
moment of waking is especially favourable for the Dead to
approach us. At the moment of waking, very much comes from the
Dead to every human being. A great deal of what we undertake in
life is really inspired into us by the Dead or by Beings of the
higher Hierarchies, although we attribute it to ourselves,
imagining that it comes from our own soul. The life of day
draws near, the moment of waking passes quickly by, and we
seldom pay heed to the intimate indications that arise out of
our soul. And when we do, we are vain enough to attribute them
to ourselves. Yet in all this — and in much else that
comes out of our soul — there lives what the Dead have to
say to us. It is indeed so: what the Dead say to us seems as if
it arises out of our own soul. If men knew what life truly is,
this knowledge would engender a feeling of reverence and
piety towards the spiritual world in which we are always
living, together with the Dead with whom we are connected. We
should realize that in much of what we do, the Dead are
working. The knowledge that around us, like the very air we
breathe, there is a spiritual world, the knowledge that the
Dead are round about us only we are not able to perceive them
— this knowledge must be unfolded in Spiritual Science
not as theory but permeating the soul as inner life. The Dead
speak to us inwardly but we interpret our own inner life
incorrectly. If we were to understand it aright, we
should know that in our inmost being we are united with the
souls who are the so-called Dead.
Now
it is not at all the same when a soul passes through the gate
of death in relatively early years or later in life. The death
of young children who have loved us, is a very different thing
from the death of people older than ourselves. Experience of
the spiritual world discovers that the secret of communion with
children who have died can be expressed by saying that in the
spiritual sense we do not lose them, they remain with us. When
children die in early life they continue to be with us —
spiritually with us. I should like to give it to you as a theme
for meditation, that when little children die they are not lost
to us; we do not lose them, they stay with us spiritually. Of
older people who die, the opposite may be said. Those who are
older do not lose us. We do not lose little children;
elderly people do not lose us. When elderly people die
they are strongly drawn to the spiritual world, but this also
gives them the power so to work into the physical world that it
is easier for them to approach us. True, they withdraw much
farther from the physical world than do children who remain
near us, but they are endowed with higher faculties of perception
than children who die young. Knowledge of different souls in the
spiritual world reveals that those who died in old age are able
to enter easily into souls on earth; they do not lose the souls
on earth. And we do not lose little children, for they remain
more or less within the sphere of earthly man. The meaning of
the difference can also be considered in another respect.
We
have not always sufficiently deep insight into the experiences
of the soul on the physical plane. When friends die, we mourn
and feel pain. When good friends pass away, I have often said
that it is not the task of Anthroposophy to offer people
shallow consolation for their pain or try to talk them out of
their sorrow One should grow strong enough to bear sorrow; not
allow oneself to be talked out of it. But people make no
distinction as to whether the sorrow is caused by the
death of a child or of one who is elderly. Spiritually
perceived, there is a very great difference. When little
children have died, the pain of those who have remained behind
is really a kind of compassion — no matter whether such
children were their own or other children whom they loved.
Children remain with us and because we have been united with
them they convey their pain to our souls; we feel their pain
— that they would fain still be here! Their pain is eased
when we bear it with them. The child feels in us, shares his
feeling with us, and it is good that it should be so; his pain
is thereby ameliorated.
On
the other hand, the pain we feel at the death of elderly people
— whether relatives or friends — can be called
egotistical pain. An elderly person who has died does not lose
us and the feeling he has is therefore different from the
feeling present in a child. One who dies in later life does not
lose us. We here in life feel that we have lost him — the
pain is therefore ours; it is egotistical pain. We do
not share his feeling as we do in the case of children; we feel
the pain for ourselves.
A
clear distinction can therefore be made between these two forms
of pain: egotistical pain in connection with the elderly; pain
fraught with compassion in connection with little children. The
child lives on in us and we actually feel what he feels. In
reality, our own soul mourns only for those who died in the
later years of their life.
It
is a matter such as this that can show us the immense
significance of knowledge of the spiritual world. For you see,
Divine Service for the Dead can be adapted in accordance with
these truths. In the case of a child who has died, it will not
be altogether appropriate to emphasize the individual aspect.
Because the child lives on in us and remains with us, the
Service of Remembrance should take a more universal form,
giving the child, who is still near us, something that is wide
and universal. Therefore in the case of a child,
ceremonial in the Service is preferable to a special funeral
oration. The Catholic ritual is better here in one respect, the
Protestant in the other. The Catholic Service includes no
funeral oration but consists in ceremony, in ritual. It is
general, universal, alike for all. And what can be alike for
all is especially good for children. But in the case of one who
has died in later years, the individual aspect is more
important. The best funeral Service here will be one in which
the life of the individual is remembered. The Protestant
Service, with the oration referring to the life of the one who
has died, will have great significance for the soul; the
Catholic ritual will mean less in such a case.
The
same distinction holds good for all our thought about those who
have died. It is best for a child when we induce a mood of
feeling connected with him; we try to turn our thoughts
to him and these thoughts will draw near to him when we sleep.
Such thoughts may be of a more general kind — such for
example as may be directed to all those who have passed through
the gate of death. In the case of an elderly person, we must
direct our thoughts of remembrance to him as an individual,
thinking about his life on earth and of experiences we shared
with him. In order to establish the right intercourse
with an older person it is very important to visualize him as
he actually was, to make his being come to life in ourselves
— not only by remembering things he said which meant a
great deal to us but by thinking of what he was as an
individual and what his value was for the world. If we make
these things inwardly alive, they will enable us to come into
connection with an older person who has died and to have the
right thoughts of remembrance for him. So you see, for the
unfolding of true piety it is important to know what attitude
should be taken to those who have died in childhood and to
those who have died in the later years of life.
Just think what it means at the present time when so many human
beings are dying in comparatively early years, to be able
to say to oneself: They are really always present, they are not
lost to the world. (I have spoken of this from other points of
view, for such matters must always be considered from different
angles.) If we succeed in becoming conscious of the spiritual
world, one realisation at least will light up in us out of the
deep sorrow with which the present days are fraught. It is that
because those who die young remain with us, a living spiritual
life can arise through community with the Dead. A living
spiritual life can and will arise, if only materialism is not
allowed to become so strong that Ahriman is able to stretch out
his claws and gain the victory over all human powers.
Many people may say, speaking purely of conditions on the
physical plane, that indications such as I have been giving
seem very remote; they would prefer to be told definitely what
they can do in the morning and evening in order to bring
themselves into a right relation with the spiritual world. But
this is not quite correct thinking. Where the spiritual world
is concerned, the first essential is that we should develop
thoughts about it. And even if it seems as though the Dead are
far away, while immediate life is close at hand, the very fact
that we have such thoughts as have been described today and
that we allow our minds to dwell on things seemingly remote
from external life — this very fact uplifts the soul,
imparts to it spiritual strength and spiritual nourishment. Do
not, therefore, be afraid of thinking these thoughts through
again and again, continually bringing them to new life with the
soul. There is nothing more important for life, even for
material life, than the strong and sure realization of
communion with the spiritual world.
If
modern men had not lost their relationship with spiritual
things to such an extent, these grave times would not have come
upon us. Only a very few today have insight into this
connection, although it will certainly be recognized in the
future. Today men think: When a human being has passed through
the gate of death, his activity ceases as far as the physical
world is concerned. But indeed it is not so! There is a living
and perpetual intercourse between the so called Dead and
the so-called Living. Those who have passed through the gate of
death have not ceased to be present; it is only that our eyes
have ceased to see them. They are there in very truth.
Our
thoughts, our feelings, our impulses of will, are all concerned
with the Dead. The words of the Gospel hold good for the Dead
as well; ‘The Kingdom of the Spirit cometh not with
observation’ (that is to say, external observation);
‘neither shall they say, Lo here, lo there, for behold, the
Kingdom of the Spirit is within you.’ We should not seek for
the Dead through externalities but become conscious that they
are always present. All historical life, all social life, all
ethical life, proceed by virtue of co-operation between the
so-called Living and the so-called Dead. The whole being of man
can be infinitely strengthened when he is conscious not only of
his firm stand here in the physical world but is filled with
the inner realization of being able to say of the Dead
whom he has loved: They are with us, they are in our midst.
This too is part of a true knowledge and understanding of
the spiritual world, which have as it were, to be woven
together from many different threads. We cannot say that we
know the spiritual world until the way in which we think
and speak about it comes from that world itself.
The
Dead are in our midst — these words in themselves are an
affirmation of the spiritual world; and only the spiritual
world itself can awaken within us the consciousness that in
very truth the Dead are with us.
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